The male vs the female brain
Posted by: Geoff P on 27 November 2004
Been discussed before I am sure but what the heck blame it on the advent of Maria, I feel it has to be revisited.
Speaking as a divorcee who BTW does not feel bitter because what happened was as much my fault as my ex-wife's, I can go for all the detailed reasons why we finally separated after 30 years but at bottom it boiled down to the fact that we just never quite understood how each other thought on any issue, though of course we thought we did.
There is a lot of modern literature which discusses the differences in the overall way a woman's brain processes information compared with a man's and postualtes this comes down to the fact that underneath the emotional surface women think more logically than men. Men on the other hand whist they think more reactively also tend to explore the "what if's" before making a decision.
At least I think that's the right way round!!!. Well anyway to illustarate, and please you women folk out there do not take this as a defence of the man's way of thinking and please also accept I am posing the following based on only my personally experience, not a nationwide poll.
-Why do women never seem to find jokes, that make men laugh hilariously,funny? I am not talking about crudity but even subtle ones seem to have a different rating.
-Why do women seem to have no sense of timing to bring bad news. Diplomacy matters not, the instant you walk thru the door from a lousy day at work you get hit by the bad news which won't be any worse if it was parcelled out when you are relaxing later on with a glass of wine and some music and will be recieved much more calmly?
-Why do women accept when a professional craftsman is employed to remodel or repair their house he will make a mess BUT the minute their husband picks up a hammer and a little bit of dirt lands on the floor start sweeping around his feet and complaining he is making a mess
-On the same theme, obviously a particular area of sensitivity in my case it seems, why after a long weekend sweating blood to say redecorate and install some shelves etc, no praise is offered, only a comment like I think that piece of wallpaper over there is 1mm out from hanging straight and the venner on the shelves if facing the wrong way for the grain markings.
There are numerous other examples where not being in tune with the basic underlying attitutdes leads unitentionally to further misunderstanding. Then we get onto the subject of spending money and particulalrly when it is on so called "boy's toys". In general HiFi seems to be one of the best examples.
-Do women hear music differently? why does the quality and level of success with which the emotion and rythum etc in music is portrayed seem of much less significance than for men? Wheras I for one feel a significant part of the total musical experinece comes from faithfull reproduction of the bass frequecncies was constant berated for having too much bass in the music when it played, even though there was no tone control and I could'ne change the ouput off the CD.
And finally. In general do women have a sense of wonder which allows them to get past the "why" of things. To illustrate I enjoy suspending specific belief and listening to and reading about the wide ranging theories put forward for the beginnings of the universe. My ex-wife's reaction to this sort of thinking was always "How do they know that? They can't prove it they just made it up".
Well the floor is open for criticism and discussion of the above opinion.
regards
GEOFF
"Just trying to make a NAIM for myself"
Speaking as a divorcee who BTW does not feel bitter because what happened was as much my fault as my ex-wife's, I can go for all the detailed reasons why we finally separated after 30 years but at bottom it boiled down to the fact that we just never quite understood how each other thought on any issue, though of course we thought we did.
There is a lot of modern literature which discusses the differences in the overall way a woman's brain processes information compared with a man's and postualtes this comes down to the fact that underneath the emotional surface women think more logically than men. Men on the other hand whist they think more reactively also tend to explore the "what if's" before making a decision.
At least I think that's the right way round!!!. Well anyway to illustarate, and please you women folk out there do not take this as a defence of the man's way of thinking and please also accept I am posing the following based on only my personally experience, not a nationwide poll.
-Why do women never seem to find jokes, that make men laugh hilariously,funny? I am not talking about crudity but even subtle ones seem to have a different rating.
-Why do women seem to have no sense of timing to bring bad news. Diplomacy matters not, the instant you walk thru the door from a lousy day at work you get hit by the bad news which won't be any worse if it was parcelled out when you are relaxing later on with a glass of wine and some music and will be recieved much more calmly?
-Why do women accept when a professional craftsman is employed to remodel or repair their house he will make a mess BUT the minute their husband picks up a hammer and a little bit of dirt lands on the floor start sweeping around his feet and complaining he is making a mess
-On the same theme, obviously a particular area of sensitivity in my case it seems, why after a long weekend sweating blood to say redecorate and install some shelves etc, no praise is offered, only a comment like I think that piece of wallpaper over there is 1mm out from hanging straight and the venner on the shelves if facing the wrong way for the grain markings.
There are numerous other examples where not being in tune with the basic underlying attitutdes leads unitentionally to further misunderstanding. Then we get onto the subject of spending money and particulalrly when it is on so called "boy's toys". In general HiFi seems to be one of the best examples.
-Do women hear music differently? why does the quality and level of success with which the emotion and rythum etc in music is portrayed seem of much less significance than for men? Wheras I for one feel a significant part of the total musical experinece comes from faithfull reproduction of the bass frequecncies was constant berated for having too much bass in the music when it played, even though there was no tone control and I could'ne change the ouput off the CD.
And finally. In general do women have a sense of wonder which allows them to get past the "why" of things. To illustrate I enjoy suspending specific belief and listening to and reading about the wide ranging theories put forward for the beginnings of the universe. My ex-wife's reaction to this sort of thinking was always "How do they know that? They can't prove it they just made it up".
Well the floor is open for criticism and discussion of the above opinion.
regards
GEOFF
"Just trying to make a NAIM for myself"
I think Geff, that you've probably been hanging with the wrong women. People are people are all different to everyone else. Probably.
Cheers
Harry
Cheers
Harry
The following should explain everything;
They always say a picture is worth a thousand words
"Just trying to make a NAIM for myself"
"Just trying to make a NAIM for myself"
quote:
Originally posted by undertone:
The following should explain everything;
http://www.afreeimagehost.com/upload/4497/femalebrain.gif
http://www.afreeimagehost.com/upload/4497/MensBrain.jpg
HAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!!
An excellent stereo type.
But there's always an exception.
[This message was edited by kuma on Sun 28 November 2004 at 22:38.]
quote:
Originally posted by Deane F:
I wonder if the man's brain would change after the active 500 DBL system is burnt in?
Not bloody likely.
quote:
Originally posted by Deane F:
Ahhh. No. I know what would happen. The man would just buy a TT. One is never _completely_ sure if a TT is giving it's best.
Deane,
On a second thought, the active 500 DBL system *can* burn into the good portion of a female brain as well.
Damn.. I want to listen to one.
The ultimate 'manly man's' system should contain many valves as possible complete with a turn table, of course.
That will give 'em more stuff to futz with!
Kuma,
When my g/f and I move to our own house I'm gonna show her the pic of your system.
Her driving skills are exemplary btw.
I taught her to park in a carpark, and lane discipline/keeping a safe distance on motorways.
She has taught me since (she's been commuting in and out of Birmingham each day for the last three months) how conventional lane discipline on approach to roundabouts is plain wrong:
"Babe, you're in the wrong lane!"
"[Silence]" ...
"Way to go babe!"
Where there are three or more lanes to choose from, unless she intends to take the final exit, she'll always pick the inside lane. It works - provided you time your approach with the vehicles coming around the roundabout so as not to have to stop. Given that vehicles on the roundabout approach from the outside (from the right in the UK) she can always enter the roundabout first anyway. Thus she jumps the queue quite successfully.
If taking the first exit, and in the left lane approaching the roundabout there is a queue, she does the total opposite - she takes the outside (right) lane and does a complete lap.
In all she probably wipes off about ten minutes from her 25 mile journey into town at rush hour by using her excellent (female) brain.
She also lets people out at side junctions, calling this "driving karma."
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As for the hi-fi thing, it is more often than not a simple battle for supremecy/territorial domination in the home.
It helps to be aware of this and make the appropriate and necessary compromises in order to achieve domestic bliss for both sides.
"You want 282 pairs of shoes, and a new top every week? No worries. I just want a 282 and a Hi-cap in the space of maybe two years that you'll enjoy given that your ears are probably better than mine anyway"
Negotiation commences from such a point of departure, given costs/budget constraints...
Regards,
Steve.
[This message was edited by Steve Toy on Mon 29 November 2004 at 5:51.]
When my g/f and I move to our own house I'm gonna show her the pic of your system.
Her driving skills are exemplary btw.
I taught her to park in a carpark, and lane discipline/keeping a safe distance on motorways.
She has taught me since (she's been commuting in and out of Birmingham each day for the last three months) how conventional lane discipline on approach to roundabouts is plain wrong:
"Babe, you're in the wrong lane!"
"[Silence]" ...
"Way to go babe!"
Where there are three or more lanes to choose from, unless she intends to take the final exit, she'll always pick the inside lane. It works - provided you time your approach with the vehicles coming around the roundabout so as not to have to stop. Given that vehicles on the roundabout approach from the outside (from the right in the UK) she can always enter the roundabout first anyway. Thus she jumps the queue quite successfully.
If taking the first exit, and in the left lane approaching the roundabout there is a queue, she does the total opposite - she takes the outside (right) lane and does a complete lap.
In all she probably wipes off about ten minutes from her 25 mile journey into town at rush hour by using her excellent (female) brain.
She also lets people out at side junctions, calling this "driving karma."
-----------------------------------------------
As for the hi-fi thing, it is more often than not a simple battle for supremecy/territorial domination in the home.
It helps to be aware of this and make the appropriate and necessary compromises in order to achieve domestic bliss for both sides.
"You want 282 pairs of shoes, and a new top every week? No worries. I just want a 282 and a Hi-cap in the space of maybe two years that you'll enjoy given that your ears are probably better than mine anyway"
Negotiation commences from such a point of departure, given costs/budget constraints...
Regards,
Steve.
[This message was edited by Steve Toy on Mon 29 November 2004 at 5:51.]
quote:
"You want 282 pairs of shoes, and a new top every week? No worries. I just want a 282 and a Hi-cap in the space of maybe two years that you'll enjoy given that your ears are probably better than mine anyway"
Steve,
It's odd. You can argue about absolutely everything, down to the last detail, for nearly 4 decades. And you still haven't a clue what's going on in there. 
Expand your sample to two and I offer you a bass-oholic. Who thinks the system lacks balls because it won't play at a continuous 120dB from DC.
Why does that sound like a derogatory description of a female. But "one of the lads" if it was a male?
Expand your sample to two and I offer you a bass-oholic. Who thinks the system lacks balls because it won't play at a continuous 120dB from DC.
Why does that sound like a derogatory description of a female. But "one of the lads" if it was a male?
quote:
Originally posted by Geoff P:
For godsake don't move to Swindon or Hemel Hempstead. They both have what are lovingly referred to as "Magic Roundabout's".
Ahhh the joys of Swindons' Magic Roundabout - My father thought it would be a great idea for me to experience this while learning to drive - with the rest of the family in the back of the car for good measure. I'm not sure who was most in need of clean underwear - me or the lucky souls in the back
AFAIK it's still there - for those that have never seen it look here...
Cheers,
Mark
Geoff
Once you accept that you can't win, that'll you'll never be right, that everything you do is wrong, a state of zen-like calm will descend and everything will be fine.
Kevin
Once you accept that you can't win, that'll you'll never be right, that everything you do is wrong, a state of zen-like calm will descend and everything will be fine.
Kevin