Dating. How long to wait on reply before giving up?
Posted by: warwick on 25 July 2006
Guys (and any ladies),
Met 2 ladies (not girls) at a party on Friday and emailed them on Monday morning. Still waiting on a reply. I know learn to accept rejection, or might they just be slow on email.
Q-How long should I wait before 'giving up'?
No, I'm not head over heals with any of them.
Fingers crossed for other lady (couldn't get her no. or email address) I am supposed to meet at Salsa class close to where we both live.
Muscial/ audio aside. In the long living room (lot of hard surfaces) where part of party was there was a grand piano being played by pukka musicians. Sounded terrible. Just goes to show our audio concerns are justified. Plus badly set up system in basement den. And the host was probably loaded, so better to be like me and have champagne taste on a beer budget.
I'm off to the park to top up my tan.
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Diode100
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Originally posted by warwick:
Guys (and any ladies),
Met 2 ladies (not girls) at a party on Friday and emailed them on Monday morning. Still waiting on a reply. I know learn to accept rejection, or might they just be slow on email.
Q-How long should I wait before 'giving up'?
No, I'm not head over heals with any of them.
Fingers crossed for other lady (couldn't get her no. or email address) I am supposed to meet at Salsa class close to where we both live.
Muscial/ audio aside. In the long living room (lot of hard surfaces) where part of party was there was a grand piano being played by pukka musicians. Sounded terrible. Just goes to show our audio concerns are justified. Plus badly set up system in basement den. And the host was probably loaded, so better to be like me and have champagne taste on a beer budget.
I'm off to the park to top up my tan.
Tricky, male logic would say that if you don't reply by Wednesday evening, forget it. But there a dozen possible reasons why a woman hasn't answered an email. I'd say give it to Friday, then move on, don't give them a second thought, that way you'll still have a life and might even get a pleasant surprise, or two, in the weeks to come.
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Nigel Cavendish
So there are 3 you are waiting on (2 x e-mail, 1 x salsa)?
Did you tap up the 2 x e-mails at the same time or separately?
Are your intentions honourable?
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by BigH47
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Are your intentions honourable?
Are they your daughters?
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Nigel Cavendish
I don't know.
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Mike1380
Gunning for both seems like a bad idea - you'll always be wondering "what if.." re t'other..
Go to the salsa as planned, but assume nothing will occur with either.
Did they know each other, or did either witness you attempting to chat up the other - if so you're either right out of luck, very seriously in luck, or going to have to take juggling lessons.
Good luck!
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Polarbear
Warwick,
carry on life as normal, if they get back to you great, if not it wasn't meant to be.
Don't lose any sleep over it,
Regards
PB
(the world's worst relationship councellor)
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Shayman
If both ladies reply you're really a bit stuck here and you could be caught in a 'choice' situation. If so I would recommend a method I've used in the past. Imagine their faces next to eachother and go with the most attractive one
Jonathan
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Steve O
Just hope they all make contact and juggle them until you identify the one you're most comfortable with. Then if the feeling is mutual you can take things further. The early stages of dating are fun and not a commitment. Don't make such a big deal out of it and you'll enjoy it much more.
Good luck,
Steve O.
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Stephen Bennett
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by erik scothron
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by garyi
It would appear if you are asking for advice on an internet hifi forum then perhaps you arn't totally great with the ladies.
If so perhaps you should have concentrated on just one of them.
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Diccus62
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Originally posted by warwick:
Guys (and any ladies),
Met 2 ladies (not girls) at a party on Friday and emailed them on Monday morning.
Maybe they were incredibly flattered at being in your prescence on Friday and compared notes. Did they observe your interest in 'the other woman'
As Capt Birdseye once said - "There are plenty more Fish in the sea"
Whatever you do in your communications with 'The ladies' don't come over as too eager or pushy. IMHO humourous, lighthearted, easy going but respectful and kind, work wonders ............ as well as charm and personality............
Hell what do I know
Enjoy the Salsa and don't worry about the email replies
Cilla Black
Posted on: 25 July 2006 by Rico
what garyi, Diccus62, and stephen bennett said...
what's wrong with a good old fashioned phone call!?
that you couldn't get contact details is not a good indication. imagine being a salesman - a prospect unwilling to accept a followup contact is not displaying much up-front interest.
natural works better than forced or stilted, relax and enjoy yourself - then see how your fortunes change!
Posted on: 26 July 2006 by warwick
Well at last I got a reply (not that I really had to wait long).
Email said meet up sometime and she left her mobile no.
I called her bla bla. I suggested Tuesday evening
and she sounded bit suprised and said
''next week'' I said yes and then she said she was about to go to dinner with a friend (had previously referred to that) and said she'd call me Friday or at the weekend.
Didn't really get a chance to change day. Didn't want to come across as weak either. Suppose I was playing hard to get, but early next does suit my schedule.
ISSUE IS: Do I wait till Friday , or even Sunday on her call ? Or do text her on Thursday OR Friday to say I've looked at schedule and can/might be able meet at another time ?
Posted on: 26 July 2006 by u5227470736789439
Dear Warwick,
This all sounds a bit cold meat to me. Do you really care if you meat up again? If you do give her a ring and fix a time to suit you both. If is a calcated but fairly emotionless thing let it ride.
Only you will know if it means anything. The chemistry of friendship, and love is inexplicable...
There are times when I have been overwhelmed by a wish, and not followed through. And lost in love as a result, but now I find that the issue is much calmer and warmer. Don't get stressed. If you think something is right do it! Total honesty and a bit of enthusiasm is far better than a "plan."
If the girl does not like your approach you are wrong for each other in any case. Be yourself...
Fredrik
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by Diode100
Wise words indeed, Fredrik
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by Diccus62
I second that emotion, Frederik
Diccus
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by Rasher
Fredrik - You're really Barry White aren't you.
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by erik scothron
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'Yeah baby...the chemistry of friendship, and love is inexplicable...'
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by Diccus62
Where is she when you need her most?
Diccus
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by JonR
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Originally posted by Rasher:
Fredrik - You're really Barry White aren't you.
Having had the pleasure of meeting Mr Fiske in person, I have to report that he doesn't strike you at first sight as someone quite of the legendary Mr White's err...'stature' so to speak.
However,
maaaan alive, as
gaaaaaad is ma witness, I sense the
lurve is
stroooonnnnngg in him!!
Warwick, as a perpetual singleton, I feel your pain. Best of luck, it's very brave of you to post such questions on an internet forum and I really do hope you find love out of all this
Posted on: 27 July 2006 by u5227470736789439
Jon!
[Huge Grin Smiley].
I am a complete failure in that department, but yes I form very deep friendships, and in a whole lifetime have only had one friendship break up. It upset me alright, but I find that being naturally yourself is the best way, and if someone still remains a friend that must be good...
I did better than my brother though. He got married and then divorced after two kids came along, which I am sure is worse! Like my father and my mother, and then his three subsequent wives, but the fifth wife was made of sterner stuff. She survived him!
Fredrik
Posted on: 28 July 2006 by Diccus62
