Lending music to friends

Never kept a book but always made sure the CD was the 'right way up' in the jewel case on it's return.

Best neglected item was Front 242 - Tyranny For You, lost by my friend when he dropped it coming in one evening, he then went out the next day and washed his car, the CD was rediscovered when it was driven over by him (wet inserts, crushed jewelcase, fractured disc). All returned in a freezer bag, he told me he didn't rate Industrial / EBM!

There are a number of books and LPs which I have lost by lending them to friends, which I dearly wish I still had.

I have also experienced the chagrin of hearing clicks on an LP, newly returned for a grateful friend, knowing they were not there before.  Do you tell your friend??

I never lend anything nowadays unless I am prepared never to see it again.  In fact I would prefer to give something away rather than lend it.

don sunny downtown York

A 30th anniversary DSOTM on vinyl came back with a spindle mark across the whole of Eclipse.When i ask said friend about it he said he didn't get round to playing it so it must have been there already.

 Also lent an A60 amp to a so called mate who lost it in a move still waiting for him to replace it. 

Learnt my lesson about lending music when I was a teenager in the 60s.  One of my cousins used to borrow my 45s, and he managed to comprehensively scratch them up.  After the 3rd such episode I just told him NO MORE BORROWING MY RECORDS.

Books and Sheet Music?  I lent a complete collection of Peanuts, and about 20 books of Sheet Music to a friend while at Edinburgh University.  He gave up his course over the Christmas break and I never got them back.

Now I just don't lend things out at all, unless I don't mind them not coming back.

John

In general I love lending stuff, I think it is great to introduce people to new music and it is fun being a recipient too. As a teenager almost all the bands I got into we're courtesy of loaned records.

A few go missing, but that is just the deal.

Be generous (or relax like me if it is all on the NAS  now anyway!)

Bruce

Never. Stuff always come back (if at all) looking the worse for wear.

I don't even 'loan' files.

I lent this friend of mine a  Sticky Fingers cassette back in the 70's. Where's my tape?  He's running a record company now!

My last experience taught me a lesson. Built up a set of 35 cooking vinyl CD's and loaned them to a friend at xmas. 6 months later and still no sign of getting them back.

Never again

Did you tell him one of your jokes? Just kidding

Loving the humour Tony.

Never lend a joke 

Its good we do this.

Had very little trouble myself,that said i would not hesitate to ask for something back if i had to after a set amount of time. If then i did not get my loaned goods back i would again not hesitate in asking that they pay for replacements. Matter of principal with me. If i do someone a favour i dont expect shoddy treatment back.

Mista H

I've lent a number of CD's which have never been returned. I don't generally lend vinyl since bad experiences as a teenager when the LPs, if returned, were often unplayable, but I have a number of friends with an LP12 and Naim system that I would lend to because I know I'll get them back in the same condition as I lent them. In other words they are just as anal as I am about looking after their vinyl. 

I’m very happy to lend CD’s to a few of my work colleague-friends, i know they are very careful, and they often lend me their CDs too, and we’ve never had a problem. It’s good to share thoughts about the music which apart from good conversation really helps the time go by.

Another really nice colleague-friend i simply can’t lend CD’s to because she trashes them. She just can't help doing it. Going though her CD collection at her house was an real eye-opener - big pile of Cds all sliding around together [empty jewel cases slung in a cardboard box] all cds scratched, battered and fingerprinted, with sugar and jam on : )

 Ah a Tomorrows World moment? 

I was always lending friends music, LPs CDs and cassettes, the reason being that I felt that the music should be heard by as many people as possible,over the years I reckon I have lost over a hundred albums due to this, this happened in the eighties and early ninties, it showed me that no matter how close a friend they are they don't really give a shit, so now when anybody asks me if they can borrow anything I tell them no. As far as I am concerned they can buy it themselves. One friend who was a serial borrower and was the worst at giving them back borrowed a pair of goodmans 3 way car speakers ( the ones with the chrome bars on the front for anyone who remembers ) and a Panasonic 583 car stereo from me as my car was ill. 6 months later when said car was feeling better I asked for them back, he told me that the amp blew up, seemingly his car battery was flat and being a lorry driver he used the lorry to jump his car, burnt out all the car wiring and the stereo, I asked about the speakers , ha went into his house and produced one only, Where is the other one? I asked. He said it was at his uncles in Nairn, about 180 miles away from where we lived, I told him not to make any plans this weekend as that was where we were going. When we got there we found the speaker in his uncles garage missing the bass cone and the mid cone. The stupid bastard didn't think I would mind. He was wrong. Although I stayed friends with him I made sure he paid me what I thought the gear was worth and never lent him anything else

Sorry not been in touch earlier,up to my eyes at the present,being bounced between 2 hospitals at the moment,but will be in touch.

Mista h

It is better to give than to lend - and it normally costs the same!!!!

Actually, my wife's minivan is The Land Where CDs Go To Die. That's awkward. Sometimes they never come back, and rarely are they quite the same.