Deadly serious question...

Yes. My email address is in my profile, if you'd like some more details.

Have à Google I know from the Netherlands, but I assume there is every country a telephone number which you can call and which you could get help from professional people in the matter.

Clay Bingham posted:

I'm deliberately not addressing this comment by name. Please give strong consideration to deleting your post. While I'm sure the interest is legitimate, I can't concieve of any circumstance where an audio hobbyist forum would be an appropriate place to ask such a question. Certainly there are better avenues for pursuit of this question.

Regards

 

I would have thought members can discuss anything they wish in the padded cell, as long as it stays civil and within the guidelines.

Also, there may be "better" avenues to pursue this question, but if the poster gets any benefit here, then all's well. I can't imagine this subject getting enough help.

count.d posted:

Clay Bingham posted:

I'm deliberately not addressing this comment by name. Please give strong consideration to deleting your post. While I'm sure the interest is legitimate, I can't concieve of any circumstance where an audio hobbyist forum would be an appropriate place to ask such a question. Certainly there are better avenues for pursuit of this question.

Regards

 

I would have thought members can discuss anything they wish in the padded cell, as long as it stays civil and within the guidelines.

Also, there may be "better" avenues to pursue this question, but if the poster gets any benefit here, then all's well. I can't imagine this subject getting enough help.

+1. Well said.

Yes i had it two times. But it's very thomy  and extremely hard to handle Mark. Please google social services in your area and you'll find people that know exactly what to do.  Good luck.

Yes, my sister's father in law committed suicide and was found unexpectedly by his daughter, and my friend's dad committed suicide when she was young.  Both instances had a severe affect on their loved ones and, in the former in particular, several family members had on going psychological issues over many years relating to the suicide.  As it happens, on Sunday night a friend of ours attempted to commit suicide by taking an overdose of tablets.  Fortunately she communicated what she had done to our group of friends on whatsap and friends were able to respond I time.   She is now ok and out of hospital and has sought help from her doctor but there were a lot of very concerned and frightened people on Sunday and Monday including her eleven year old son.  As others have posted above you will get better advice and information from groups such as the Samaritans or from the medical community than you are likely to get on here, but if there is anything I can do to help feel free to contact me via my email which is in my profile.

Best wishes, David

2 brothers and  friends of mine commited suicide.

The first brother was found hanged by the second brother who called him extremely selfish for putting his parents through the ordeal.Six months later he also took his own life.On the day of the second brothers funeral his father took a heart attack and died.

There mother still lives next door to me.Quite a unbelievable story but a very true and sad one.

scott

You specifically ask about the impact of suicide on those left behind. I don't think it would be surprising to suggest that in the majority of cases the family and friends suffer a complex and difficult grief that usually affects them for many, many years. This is often associated with severe guilt, anger, frustration and confusion and a deep sadness far greater than in almost any other bereavement scenario.

Occasionally suicide may be viewed by relatives as a release for the individual-i have known one such case. I have known many more like the first description.

As a professional I urge the individual(s) to get professional support. I have tried to offer you an answer to the specific question-but that is not the same as care, support and the understanding of professionals.

Bruce

My mother had a nervous breakdown , from not grieving a lost son at aged eight from meningitis. Wanted to take her life but I " intervented "with a coupled call to Samaritan uk . traumatic but essential.

My only advice is to seek professional advice on this matter. Don't regret not having acted.

Two uncles took their own lives. My mother's brother a few months before I was born, my father's when I was ten. I remember this vividly. I was closer to him than my father and I was devastated. I still think of him every day and the older I get the more I wonder what could have driven him to this. Did he not realise how much I loved and worshipped him? He left behind my aunt and two cousins aged aged eight and five. I'm also aware that it's happened on both sides of the family and this worries me as I've sometimes had some very dark thoughts myself.

Over the following four or so years I also lost all my grandparents, three of whom I knew well and loved dearly. It was a lot for a youngster to take in and I'm quite sure it has affected my outlook on life as I got older.

Although they were talked about quite freely I was in my thirties before my mother finally told me what had actually happened and it opened up a load of deep painful wounds again.