A Thought About Friends...

A friend in need is a friend in deed - a friend with weed is better...

Sorry - couldn't help myself. I HATE Placebo BTW.

Anyway, seriously...

Is this emotional requirements or time?
Do they want a relationship and you wanna stay friends? (gasp)

Or are they just a pain in the behind?
If so tell them to clear off! You've only got one life annd you can't let the turkeys get you down.

I had a couple of friends like that - just a real labour to try and get along with. So I left it for years. And you know what? I never heard a word from them, which proved we weren't really 'friends' to start with - more acquaintainces.

I decided that we were both better off.

My father is a classic example of this. Every time we meet I wanna punch the bejeebers out of him (except I don't dare as he's 100kg and an ex police officer so he'd wipe the floor with me). So we don't speak. I still love him, but that's beside the point. I haven't got time for the emotional grief - I get enough of that from my wife and children...

See Fred.............my friend just let it be what it has to be.
And get the worst and the best of it.
That's why i'll never ask him for more and he will not as well.

Sometimes we need more than what we're having.
That's human!
But growing means, somehow, to learn to leave an half full glass for the one is in front of us.

"a friend in need is a friend in debt"
john cooper clarke

Yes if he is prepared to do the same for you.

If he does it time and time again without returning the effort then no he's not.

Fredrik. My friends mean the world to me and I would like to give them everything I can; my time, support, money, love, whatever they need. If they are my friends I would want to give them more than they would want to accept.
Maybe the question is really: Are you really their friend? It's okay if you're not, we have to move on sometimes and we have to acknowledege when we don't have the things in common that we used to, like when my life changed when I had children and my best buddy & me just drifted apart. I have a whole new set of friends now from say 6 years ago and I don't have any worries about moving on. I don't fall out with people, but just end up seeing them less and less sometimes when I meet new friends. I also have friends going back 30 years.
If you are thinking the way you are, maybe it's you, not them.

'But the horrible sincerity of Miriam Stoppard
Makes me want to go out and commit mass murder'

HMHB

Dear Rasher,

I was reminded, this weekend, of the occasion when a so called friend pulled a stunt which I will not describe here, which caused me to take a rather blunt course of action. This did nothing but good for him, but it certainly destroyed the imaginary friendship, as he saw things very differently! I became a Judas in his eyes, but things only got better for him since, so I think I was right.

Otherwise, I have never lost a friend even by the drifting prcess! I just wondered what would come of my first post, and the result has been very nice so far.

All the best from Fredrik

Fredrik, being taken for granted can be taken as a compliment. It means you've become a comfortable, trusted element in another person's life!

Paul