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. As a parent of a 4 year old, my viewpoint currently is clouded by great sadness and extreme anger. You won't get a rational comment from me on this one for a very long time. I don't know how you do it Diccus. You have a rare quality.
As a parent of a beautiful 3 year old little girl and lovely 4 & 9 year old boys angry thoughts about the perpetrator are there. Specifically Traffikers of children for the sex trade fill me with rage and my feelings for the children involved bring me to tears. My wife (and I) work with some children/young people who have suffered things most of us couldn't bear to even contemplate happening to children. At times it is almost too overwhelming for me, but what are my feelings compared to what they have suffered. That is why I say that I am privileged and quite humbled by working with these damaged children. Some of these children as Acad has alluded to go on to commit serious crimes (some of a sexual nature). If this happens I agree Society should protect others from them within our laws. I also agree with comments about victims of crime. Whilst Victim Support provide some good work they are under resourced and over stretched. I share concerns that at time's the balance is weighted in favour of rehabilitation of the offender rather than supporting the victim.
Our two youngest children call us mum and dad yet they are our grandchildren. They live with us because they suffered significant harm at the hands of their parents. That breaks my heart on a daily basis and specifically my little boy (4) whose behaviour is at times distressing to watch and particularly because it is directly attributable to his mother and father's abusive behaviour, both directly and indirectly. They were more interested in drugs and alcohol than nurturing our children. We are in Court next week because mum wants contact with the children. We have done all in our powers to make sure that contact is limited to letterbox only, yet if she contests it we will need to go from Family court to a higher Court. We represent ourselves in Court as Solicitors at £200 an hour are a bit beyond our reach. This also adds stress to us as we have to file our own statements and represent our children's best interests in an arena we have experience of but are not experts. We will however safeguard our children to our last breath to enable them to grow to be well balanced adults.
When I see photographs of little Maddy I think of my little girl. Can I imagine what her parents are going through? absolutely not, I couldn't go there it is so bad. They however have to function
as they also have two younger children to care for. One day soon when the adrenaline has ceased they are going to emotionally crash big time. It is not a place I could even contemplate going.
Regards
Diccus
