How to sustain desire
Posted by: Jan-Erik Nordoen on 21 February 2013
19 minutes well spent.
"In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence."
How to sustain desire?
HRT for the woman and Viagra for the man. 
Take away his Naim system
.........and give it back to him, DOIING)))) ! 
ATB Peter
As for desire, well, my attempt to send roses to my better half last week ended in FAIL. After placing the order with FTD on the 11th, for delivery on the 14th, I received – on the 13th - an email confirming that the roses had been delivered. I figured it was just a clerical error and waited to see what would happen on the 14th. My wife received a bouquet of… irises, with a hand written card from someone called Dominic asking if the intended recipient would be his valentine. She called the florist to report the error and was told “ Well we're sorry, but just keep the flowers anyway”. She then had to explain to the florist that perhaps Dominic had summoned up all of his courage for this declaration of love… You would think that a florist would understand the importance of the gesture. Finally, they returned to pick up the flowers. Still no roses though.
I contacted FTD to report the error and claim a refund. That went fairly smoothly. FTD contacted the florist, who then called my wife. They were unapologetic and wanted her to explain what had gone wrong…
We just hope that Dominic’s message got through.
Jan
Jan, thanks for that it made me and my wife laugh. Something similar happened to me when I was a youth. I soon learned not to delegate important stuff like this
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.Too true. I've ordered flowers many times on line using FTD, but this was the first time things went awry.
I picked up the card myself however. I don't have a scanner handy, but on the front is an elderly couple, sitting (clothed) in what appears to be their gardening shed, each holding a cigarette.
Wife : "Was it good for you " ; Husband : "Was what good ?"
Inside the card, something to this effect : "I promise to still want you even when I don't remember what it was that I wanted you for".
Nice save
How to sustain desire?
HRT for the woman and Viagra for the man.
Sometimes Pink Viagra for the ladies....Every little helps
Chris N
Our recipe after 24yrs without a single row.
Do stuff together.
Do stuff apart and enjoy sharing that stuff when you get together again.
Don't have kids!
Bruce
"Dont have kids". Bruce, do you know something we don't, medically speaking?
I am just starting out on the kids journey, but one would assume that creating life would sustain desire.
I always surmised that having a child would change your attitude to life in general, in a positive way and therefore help sustain desire for everything from glimpsing your wife/husband in your child and appreciating the time you have alone.
which I guess is the same as appreciating your time together.First night out together without the baby in 7 months, will be this Saturday to see Cirque du Soleil in Oslo, and some drinks after.
Jason.