Whinge Factor 10 ...

You do say you like creating mischief in your profile. 

You have my sympathy though.

Dungassin posted:

Dismantled and boxed the active living room system today.   Tried to do most of it before SWMBO 'surfaced' (I'm usually up a couple of hours before her).  She appears and her (not at all unexpected) first comment was 'did you have to do this today', followed by 'look at the mess your making' and 'did you have to do it all at once'

Tried the logical approach - my comments as follows :

When am I supposed to do it?

I waited until you took down the Christmas decorations.

Do I have to wait until you decide to visit one of your cronies for a few hours?

I'll clean the mess up myself when I've finished packing the 'bits'.

I took it all apart at once so that I could sort out the leads and make sure they went in the right boxes - couldn't do it piecemeal because they were like spaghetti.

Did manage to persuade her to give me a hand (given very grudgingly) to box up the SBLs, but she didn't like ANY of my reasoning, as it didn't agree with female 'logic'.

 

Now she's saying :

When are you going to move the boxes out of the dining room? (unused except when we have visitors)  .... and  .... Make sure you get Tim (son-in-law) come to collect the bits he's having himself.

Well, I know what will happen there.  Tim won't be able to come to collect them for a week.  She'll complain continually, and eventually I'll take them down myself next Friday when we go to babysit.

Sigh ... women!!!

By the sound of it you need to trade-in for a newer model. Not talking about the hifi here 

intothevoid posted:

Dungassin posted:

Dismantled and boxed the active living room system today.   Tried to do most of it before SWMBO 'surfaced' (I'm usually up a couple of hours before her).  She appears and her (not at all unexpected) first comment was 'did you have to do this today', followed by 'look at the mess your making' and 'did you have to do it all at once'

Tried the logical approach - my comments as follows :

When am I supposed to do it?

I waited until you took down the Christmas decorations.

Do I have to wait until you decide to visit one of your cronies for a few hours?

I'll clean the mess up myself when I've finished packing the 'bits'.

I took it all apart at once so that I could sort out the leads and make sure they went in the right boxes - couldn't do it piecemeal because they were like spaghetti.

Did manage to persuade her to give me a hand (given very grudgingly) to box up the SBLs, but she didn't like ANY of my reasoning, as it didn't agree with female 'logic'.

 

Now she's saying :

When are you going to move the boxes out of the dining room? (unused except when we have visitors)  .... and  .... Make sure you get Tim (son-in-law) come to collect the bits he's having himself.

Well, I know what will happen there.  Tim won't be able to come to collect them for a week.  She'll complain continually, and eventually I'll take them down myself next Friday when we go to babysit.

Sigh ... women!!!

By the sound of it you need to trade-in for a newer model. Not talking about the hifi here 

Trade-in perhaps but, given past posts, its Mrs. Dungassin who's earned the trade-in.

festive cheer ? They say Christmas time is a time of high domestic angst - perhaps an answer is to go out together and have some drinks with friends - and try and forget all things domestic.... at least your decorations have gone - ours have to stay until twelth night.

S  

She has never been very good at coping with change.  Every so often I tell her that we really ought to have the living room/dining room/stairs/upper landing redecorated.  After all, they haven't been touched for 30 years.  She just can't bear the thought of the disruption it would cause.  I have suggested going to stay with our daughter in Sutton Coldfield (only 20 minutes drive) and leaving decorators to fend for themselves, but have yet to persuade her.

Like many others, we have our disagreements, but concur on most things.  Just wish she wouldn't assume that SHE is always right, and that if I disagree, then I must be wrong.   After all, I'm expected to just accept criticism, but am not supposed to dish it out.   For instance - she NEVER puts my tools etc back where she got them from, but god help me if  I use something of hers and not put it back EXACTLY where it came from, and if I dare to ask her where she keeps something, she just assumes that I ought to know!

My dad used to say the same things about my mum.

Don't get too excited by my complaining.  Just letting off a bit of steam.

It's what I call a No Win situation, best to lose gracefully.... 

Or

You say I can't agree with you otherwise we will both be wrong... 

"Like many others, we have our disagreements, but concur on most things.  Just wish she wouldn't assume that SHE is always right, and that if I disagree, then I must be wrong.   After all, I'm expected to just accept criticism, but am not supposed to dish it out.   For instance - she NEVER puts my tools etc back where she got them from, but god help me if  I use something of hers and not put it back EXACTLY where it came from, and if I dare to ask her where she keeps something, she just assumes that I ought to know!"

+1

steve

Dungassin posted:

My dad used to say the same things about my mum..

Plenty of material for a psychotherapist here!

Hope it works out. Your son-in-law is a lucky man.

Chris

Already worked out.  She's speaking to me again.  Had a kiss and cuddle and made up.  Same as always.

My sons-in-law are both lucky men.  After all, they married our 2 little darlings.   

Of course, I'll probably be in the doghouse again tomorrow.  I'm planning to drill holes in my study wall to fit the Tiger Paw Turntable Shelf.   I'll be nagged about the mess/dust etc, even though I'll be cleaning it up myself.

Also, she's going to be annoyed in a week or so when I get my little cheap Affinity Telecaster (originally bought for the grandkids to mess about with) back from the Guitar Shop.  I'm having some mods done to it which cost considerably more than the cost of the guitar itself!  Bigsby tremolo, Seymour Duncan pickups if your interested.  The Affinity Telecaster is a remarkably good instrument - especially considering its price, and on its return may actually outperform my American Standard Telecaster.

Why will she be annoyed?  Well, I didn't tell/discuss it with her.  It's her fault anyway, she won't let me have any more guitars, so I'm modding this one instead.