You don't have to be an expert to apply this trick, You just need a cartridge scale. Put the tracking force dial on zero and adjust the tracking force by turning the dial until you reach the desired value on a digital scale.
I am afraid your problem lies somewhere else. As you climb on the audiophile ladder, you reach a higher level of resolution and transparency, but you can lose some emotion. And yes, bad pressings are ruthlessly revealed.
I also wonder if it is not better resolving power showing up the weakness in the recording. I have found similar, when certian rock tracks (Lenny Kravitz, Are you going my way, track=Sister; the use of wah wah being a good example) had lots of exciting distortion, only to disappear with an upgrade. Sometimes the benefits of the upgrade then dont really improve that specific recording until one or more changes get things into balance again and you can better hear the reality.